Mating in Captivity

Mating in Captivity

Reconciling the Erotic + the Domestic

Book - 2006 | First edition.
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A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

One of the world's most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

Publisher: New York : HarperCollins, [2006]
Edition: First edition.
Copyright Date: ©2006
ISBN: 9780060753634
Branch Call Number: 306.87 Per
Characteristics: xxi, 244 pages ; 24 cm


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Mar 12, 2013

<p>This book challenges the assumption that sexual desire and eroticism inevitably decline in a long-term committed relationship. Perel brings an outsider's perspective to the strange mix of attitudes and behaviours that characterize American (and Canadian) relationships.<p> Her basic premise is that we crave both the security and reliability of loving long-term relationships and the thrill, excitement and heightened eroticism of new relationships. She believes that to sustain the thrill over the long-term, we must refrain from too much intimacy with our partners. We, and our partners, should maintain certain parts of ourselves and our identities that are separate from and unknown to our partners. See them with fresh eyes and remember what excited us about them in the first place.<P> In an easy-to-read yet almost poetic style, Perel lays out her thesis and uses case studies from her practice to illustrate her points in the context of real couples (with names changed, of course). <p>She doesn't exactly offer concrete suggestions for what any one couple can do. If anything, she implies that seeing a therapist is a good idea. But there is enough here to make you think more closely about how you approach sex and how to have both security and excitement in the same relationship.

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