How Not to Hate your Husband After Kids

How Not to Hate your Husband After Kids

Book - 2017 | First edition.
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A hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice.
"Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself." -- People
Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in Slate Featured in People Picks
A Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the year One of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the year
How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper?

Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child.

Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today.

On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate--and rebuild--your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children.

Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.

Publisher: New York : Little, Brown and Company, 2017.
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9780316267106
Branch Call Number: 646.782 Dun
Characteristics: viii, 269 pages ; 25 cm


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SCL_Justin Aug 12, 2019

I read this book more as a guide of how to not be quite so hateable a partner and I think a lot of the stuff she talks about are very sensible. It's good to know what selfishness looks like from the outside, that it isn't all moustache twirling evil, which of course I don't think I do, but casual things you don't think about until they're pointed out.

Jan 05, 2019

I really enjoyed this book. As a mother of two small children and pregnant with my third I could relate to many things the author and her husband struggled through. Jancee included studies and documented ways on how to improve your marriage. I would recommend this book to anyone whose pregnant, or has small children.

Jun 28, 2018

I Just couldn't get into this one. Not what I was expecting with the constant references to studies about this and that.

ArapahoeJillK Apr 09, 2018

Filled with humor and relatable situations, author Jancee Dunn seeks advise from various experts in order to implement improvements within their marriage six years after the birth of their child.

MomoT Feb 01, 2018

I read one of Jancee Dunn's earlier books about her life as a twenty-something gal-about-town so it was really interesting to get a look at her life as a harried wife and mother. Dunn writes with humour and candor about her mission to improve her marriage and home-life by calling upon the services of various experts including FBI hostage negotiators (I'm serious) - applying their tips in her own relationship. The sort of book where you can pick the parts you think will work in your own family and try them out.

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