How to Be Yourself

How to Be Yourself

Quiet your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety

Book - 2018 | First edition.
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Picking up where Quiet ended, How to Be Yourself is the best book you'll ever read about how to conquer social anxiety.

"This book is also a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self." --Susan Cain, New York Times , USA Today and nationally bestselling author of Quiet

Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you're introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure.

If you get nervous in social situations--meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss--you've probably been told, "Just be yourself!" But that's easier said than done--especially if you're prone to social anxiety.

Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has. With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the reader through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and--at long last--exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.

Publisher: New York : St. Martin's Press, 2018.
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9781250161703
Branch Call Number: 616.85225 Hen
Characteristics: vi, 298 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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Aug 30, 2018

Hendriksen uses humor to get her point across and plenty of anecdotal stories of her patients. Because it is light-hearted, and easy to read, I recommend for younger adults who crave entertainment above education (that is not to say there are not some hidden gems; you are sure to find yourself relating to at least one of the stories).

Apr 19, 2018

She spends way to much of the beginning of the book trying to sell the book. And then the rest is a very long-form lesson in CBT and exposure therapies. She also uses a lot of generalizations and it felt alienating at times--not everyone's fears/actions are rooted in the same thoughts.
Instead of this book, I'd recommend "Quiet" by Susan Cain about introversion and society and for CBT/etc. I think "The Anxiety Survival Guide for Teens: CBT Skills to Overcome Fear, Worry & Panic" is good and has a chapter on social anxiety and works for adults/parents too.

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