How to Be Yourself

How to Be Yourself

Quiet your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety

Book - 2018 | First edition.
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"This book is also a groundbreaking roadmap to finally being your true, authentic self." --Susan Cain, New York Times, USA Today and nationally bestselling author of Quiet Whenever people are nervous about interacting with others, they're told, "Just be yourself!" But that is easier said than done--especially if you also suffer from social anxiety. You might say you're just introverted or bad with people; that you're fine around friends but feel like you can't speak up in a board meeting or a mingling event; or maybe you never would have considered yourselves socially anxious but have recently moved or started a new job, only to become isolated and unsure. But Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety herself, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her patients overcome the same obstacles she has. With both familiarity and authority, Dr. Hendriksen talks the reader through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures; how it's wired into our brains and how we can change our brains through our behavior; and how to quiet your Inner Critic (the voice that says, You can't). Using her techniques to develop confidence, ease panic, and relax in the face of uncertainty, you can finally be yourself.
Publisher: New York : St. Martin's Press, 2018.
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9781250161703
Branch Call Number: 616.85225 Hen
Characteristics: vi, 298 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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Aug 30, 2018

Hendriksen uses humor to get her point across and plenty of anecdotal stories of her patients. Because it is light-hearted, and easy to read, I recommend for younger adults who crave entertainment above education (that is not to say there are not some hidden gems; you are sure to find yourself relating to at least one of the stories).

Apr 19, 2018

She spends way to much of the beginning of the book trying to sell the book. And then the rest is a very long-form lesson in CBT and exposure therapies. She also uses a lot of generalizations and it felt alienating at times--not everyone's fears/actions are rooted in the same thoughts.
Instead of this book, I'd recommend "Quiet" by Susan Cain about introversion and society and for CBT/etc. I think "The Anxiety Survival Guide for Teens: CBT Skills to Overcome Fear, Worry & Panic" is good and has a chapter on social anxiety and works for adults/parents too.

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