A Complicated Kindness

A Complicated Kindness

A Novel

Book - 2005
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Publisher: Toronto : Vintage Canada, [2005]
Copyright Date: ©2004
ISBN: 9780676978568
Branch Call Number: FIC Toews
Characteristics: 246 pages

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summerforever
Jan 02, 2019

Nomi is way too hilarious. I found the writing style to be unique and the ending was indeed bittersweet. Here are some quotes I liked. Spoilers ahead!

"Nomi, he said, you just need to wake up to the fact that other people need to know where you're going. But there's nobody behind me, I told him. And he said, reassuringly, that someday there may be." (75)

"I wondered if it was possible to donate my body to science before I was actually dead. I wondered if a disease were to be named after me what the symptoms would be." (75)

"And then she burned her diary in this ceremony that indicated the end of her little-girl period and threw the ashes into the Rat River, a properly embittered woman." (96)

"I went into the bathroom, puked, passed out in my bed, and briefly died, until the sun rose once again reminding me of renewed hope and promise and other abiding things. I needed to find something large and dark to put in my window or I would slowly die of fatigue." (200)

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sharon711
Nov 07, 2018

Toews paints for us a picture of life in a strict Mennonite community for a spirited teenage girl, called Nomi. It’s a place where every action is tightly controlled by the church leader, Nomi’s uncle, The Mouth. Nomi’s smart and irreverent. She wants to know who where what and why. Her questioning throughout the novel never yields any answers, only more questions. I found the whole thing tiresome and felt as frustrated as Nomi by the circumstances of her life. I didn’t finish the book. I couldn’t find the patience to wade through 200 more pages of rambling text. Perhaps if I had, I would have understood better what Toews was aiming for. This book was definitely not for me.

darellee May 11, 2018

A Complicated Kindness tells the heartbreakingly funny story of Nomi Nickel coming of age in a small Mennonite town in southern Manitoba. Miriam Toews depicts teenage angst and exasperation with such humour and authenticity that you'll be laughing and crying at the same time. A Complicated Kindness won the Governor’s General Literary Award when it was published in 2004 and Canada reads in 2006. It is still a popular and relevant read for 2018.

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LL22
Mar 06, 2017

This is one of my very favourite books and my favourite Miriam Toews book. Such an interesting story of growing up in a truly bizarre setting, and how this affects a young mind and a family. The title is just excellent for this book, describing the complicated kindness of the people in the narrator's town. Even more compelling is that it is semi-autobiographical. A book that made me laugh and cry, sometimes on the same page, through finding humour in the darkest moments - Toewes's finest talent. Recommended if you liked Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls.

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Soundreader
Feb 18, 2017

It is hard to write stream of consciousness book well, but Toews does. 16-year-old Nomi is lost but not just in the "typical teenager" lost sort of way. Two of the most important figures in her life have left her: her older sister and her mother. To top that all off, she lives in a conservative Mennonite town in Canada. She is not only struggling to understand the world around her as a typical teenager would but as a teenager going through a huge family crisis that leaves her questioning life, love, family, and what to do with herself.

The book is laugh-out-loud funny with Nomi's dry sense of humor and also tragically sad in its reflection of life and loss.

I feel it is thought provoking, introspective, and worth reading. I recommend this book to others.

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spiderfelt_0
Jan 30, 2017

It is hard to pinpoint why this book left me feeling 'eh', kind of flat. There were clever lines, funny moments and poignant scenes. For the most part, I found the juxtaposition of past and present vaguely annoying and slightly confusing, never quite sure if we were in a past or present moment. I can see why it would appeal to some, but I would not be quick to recommend it to many readers.

AmberKlassen May 07, 2015

This novel has a lot of truths in it, but is merely the depiction of an adolescent who did not like her life and took no control or responsibility for her own actions.

Disappointed because there is not much to read about this unique culture/religion in Canada.

The star rating is for personal reference.

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Catherine41
Apr 25, 2015

I found the book to be quite sad, and lacking hope for the characters. At the beginning there was a bit of humour inserted in the story, which helped keep me reading, but that lessened as the book progressed and I found the second half harder to read.

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kancruze
Mar 01, 2015

Did not find this book interesting. Her style of prose did not keep my interest either. I was as bored with it after the first few chapters just as the main character was bored. I figured out what was going to happen and read the last few pages and was right.

WVMLStaffPicks Jan 19, 2015

The pain of loss enfolds Nomi Nickel--teenage girl, confused Mennonite, and motherless daughter. Nomi is consumed by her struggle to understand why first her sister, and then her mother, would leave their relatively happy family, and just disappear into the night. Desperately latching onto Travis, a fellow teen also trying to see beyond the bonds of Mennonite righteousness, Nomi falls deeper into sorrowful rebellion. Only her father’s drastic sacrifice to save her brings Nomi to a place where she can contemplate the opportunity to be reunified with her family “somewhere in the real world”…which is not Main Street, Manitoba. This is a wonderful story of redemption, written with a poignancy and humour that make it bearable.

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Jul 21, 2010

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