The Victorian Lady's Guide to Sex, Marriage, and Manners

Book - 2016 | First edition.
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Have you ever wished you could live in an earlier, more romantic era?

Ladies, welcome to the 19th century, where there's arsenic in your face cream, a pot of cold pee sits under your bed, and all of your underwear is crotchless. (Why? Shush, dear. A lady doesn't question.)

UNMENTIONABLE is your hilarious, illustrated, scandalously honest (yet never crass) guide to the secrets of Victorian womanhood, giving you detailed advice on:

~ What to wear
~ Where to relieve yourself
~ How to conceal your loathsome addiction to menstruating
~ What to expect on your wedding night
~ How to be the perfect Victorian wife
~ Why masturbating will kill you
~ And more

Irresistibly charming, laugh-out-loud funny, and featuring nearly 200 images from Victorian publications, UNMENTIONABLE will inspire a whole new level of respect for Elizabeth Bennett, Scarlet O'Hara, Jane Eyre, and all of our great, great grandmothers.

(And it just might leave you feeling ecstatically grateful to live in an age of pants, super absorbency tampons, epidurals, anti-depressants, and not-dying-of-the-syphilis-your-husband-brought-home.)

Publisher: New York : Little, Brown and Company, 2016.
Edition: First edition.
Copyright Date: ©2016
ISBN: 9780316357913
Branch Call Number: 305.409034 One
Characteristics: viii, 307 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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LPL_PolliK Sep 26, 2017

I love historical romances, but there are so many things NOT covered in those stories. Well, this book covers them. And EWWWWWWW! Funny (and gross) facts, but some really insightful historical facts about practices and people you might not have heard of. Did I mention funny? Oneill is hilarious. If you don’t like frank and salty talk, this book isn’t for you. But if you do, read it and then come talk to me about it!

Jul 26, 2017

Although I enjoyed reading this for the information it provided, I did not prefer the humorous almost sarcastic tone of the author. I know she was trying to be funny but wasn't for me.

Jul 06, 2017

Unmentionable: The Victorian Lady's Guide to Sex, Marriage, and Manners is the perfect blend of #history, #humour and #pictures! I love #illustrations, #vintageads and #historical documents, so I gobbled this up. The best parts are on #toilets and #menstruation  Honestly, the past sounds horrifying -- completely. This book took me back to some research I did on 17th century customs and what I remember first is all the FILTH. Most people lived in squalor an even rich people smelled bad. The stuff about bodily stench was a bit much, but I learned things about #ambergris that I never knew! Take a minute to thank your higher power today for being born in the here and now. Especially you, ladies. Awesome book. I'm gonna buy it for my own shelves.

May 21, 2017

Absolutely hilarious! And also educational. It's a great book written with great voice and style.

JCLMaryanaK May 11, 2017

Gross and funny, this book made me grateful for all the modern conveniences I often take for granted. Oneill acts as tour guide and mentor to the 21st century woman time-traveling in the Victorian era.

AL_KATI Apr 24, 2017

I loved every single page--it's chockablock full of facts and amusing anecdotes that will make you want to stay in the 21st century. It's like the 19th century version of going out for cocktails with your best girlfriends.

MomoT Mar 21, 2017

This book is the perfect antidote to every "I wish I lived in the times of Little House on the Prairie-Anne of Green Gables-Little Women" compulsion you have ever felt. Snarky, hilarious and full to the brim with feminist observations, bizarre facts, and positively outrageous quotes from contemporary sources, this is an enjoyable, educational read. Please write more books, Therese O'Neill, I beg of you.

Beatricksy Dec 16, 2016

It's a comedy written in the 2nd person perspective, which I had NOT anticipated. It stops the book reading like a dusty tome, but it does mean that, no matter how well researched it is (and it does seem to be beautifully researched), I still have niggling doubts about authenticity. Because I'm one of those people utterly spoiled by academia who can't have any fun. Which is a shame, because this book is SO FUN. And jampacked with more information than I can absorb. As it wraps up, all the overwhelming details and all, I can’t believe this is how people survived day to day life. And yet I totally can and I love it.

Dec 12, 2016

Oneill brings a jolt of reality to the modern reader who thinks that living in the Victorian Age would be a time and place of simpler joys. Does she have a surprise for you? Tackling everything from lack of personal cleanliness to dangerous beauty products to wifely expectations, Oneill reveals the mores and practices of the time through books, magazines, and illustrations that were mainly written by men. Her snarky modern captions for the Victorian illustrations are especially delightful. You'll never appreciate the 21st century more than after finishing this book.

Dec 10, 2016

Fascinating account of the Victorian era that was about as romantic as a bad case of body odour. Very funny folklore covering a variety of awkward topics that I can't mention here.

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