It Gets Better

It Gets Better

Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating A Life Worth Living

Book - 2011
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Every story can change a life.

Watch a video Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, making them feel like they have nowhere to turn. This is especially true for LGBT kids and teens who often hide their sexuality for fear of bullying. Without other openly gay adults and mentors in their lives, they can't imagine what their future may hold. In many instances, gay and lesbian adolescents are taunted - even tortured - simply for being themselves.

After a number of tragic suicides by LGBT students who were bullied in school, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage uploaded a video to YouTube with his partner Terry Miller to inspire hope for LGBT youth facing harassment. Speaking openly about the bullying they suffered as teenagers, and how they both went on to lead rewarding adult lives, their video launched the It Gets Better Project YouTube channel and initiated a worldwide phenomenon. With over 6,000 videos posted and over 20 million views in the first three months alone, the world has embraced the opportunity to provide personal, honest and heartfelt support for LGBT youth everywhere.

It Gets Better is a collection of expanded essays and new material from celebrities, everyday people and teens who have posted videos of encouragement, as well as new contributors who have yet to post videos to the site. While many of these teens couldn't see a positive future for themselves, we can. We can show LGBT youth the levels of happiness, potential and positivity their lives will reach if they can just get through their teen years. By sharing these stories, It Gets Better reminds teenagers in the LGBT community that they are not alone - and it WILL get better.
Publisher: New York : Dutton, [2011]
Copyright Date: ©2011
ISBN: 9780525952336
Branch Call Number: 306.7660835 It
Characteristics: x, 338 pages : illustrations
Additional Contributors: Savage, Dan
Miller, Terry


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When columnist Dan Savage and his partner Terry Miller uploaded a video to YouTube to inspire hope in struggling queer youth, it sparked the It Gets Better Project, a worldwide phenomenon, and this book, which highlights the simple message: It DOES get better.

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Dec 01, 2014

This book shows the power of social media. Annoyed with the LGBT teen suicides, Dan savage and his husband, Terry Miller set out to make a difference. They wanted to tell kids that getting through school is the key, that it doesn’t matter how awful things are at home or at school, it does get better. They will find friends, happiness and love. After Dan and Terry realized that it’d be nearly impossible to talk in high and middle schools, the places where homophobia does the most of the damage, it hit them that they didn’t need invitations nor permission to speak to kids of today. Not in a word where Twitter, Facebook and Youtube exist. They recorded and posted their "It Gets Better" video, hoping for a hundred similar videos from lgbt adults and straight allies. What they got were thousands of videos from everyday people and celebrities, companies and politicians (including President Obama), and positive responses and thanks from teens and parents struggling with homophobic bullying. This book includes tons of people writing about their challenges and experiences before coming out, during the period of coming out, and how it got better after a little bit time. This book is truly inspiring for those who are struggling with their sexualities, I hope that someone, somewhere that needs that message gets it. Because honestly, high school is no picnic for me either, but it's just four years of our lives. I’d recommend it to anyone that is facing any type of challenges because in addition to it talking about people from lgbt community, the moral of the book is that it does get better, whatever you are facing right now will fade soon and it gets better.

Jun 21, 2013

An all-around fabulous book. A must for anybody struggling with any type of bullying, even if you aren't LGBTQ. All types of people and all types of personalities are displayed through this book, all backgrounds, all religions, all races, anything you could imagine. Dan Savage and Terry Miller are such great role models by making positive growth and change in society. Read this book, it will change your life for the better!

beatrice16 Jul 30, 2012

this book is good for people who has been bullied because of their skin or sexuality or gender or ecthcity and just someone to lift their sprits

KJtheEpicFailure Jun 25, 2012

Nothing less and everything above a 5-star rating. Inspirational, motivational, with lots of great people involved in it. Anyone and everyone should read this book, no matter their sexuality. I'm very proud to live in a world with people like Dan Savage.

Jul 11, 2011

That horrible fall of 2010, when it seemed every day there were reports of a gay kid killing themselves due to intolerance and hostility, noted columnest Dan Savage, like the rest of us, wondered if there was some way we could reach those kids in crisis and offer them some kind of hope. Of course, schools and churches certainly weren't going to let us anywhere near their children. But in the age of the internet, we COULD reach out and there was nothing queasy teachers and intolerant parents could do to stop it.

What Dan percieved to be a very humble step on his and his husband's part turned into a global phenomenon. People from all over the world, famous and just everyday people, uploaded videos telling their stories. This book is the companion to the Youtube channel. Not all of the stories are polished, but they are all heartfelt. Unfortunately, the people who really need to read this book (the bullies wearing the masks of family, or political or religious leaders) aren't likely to read. But if it helps one lost and lonely gay kid out there, then it will all be worth it.

May 25, 2011

A collection of encouraging stories of LGBTQ people who have survived bullying, unsupportive family, and/or self denial to have happy full lives and self-acceptance of their gender identity and sexual orientations. Also includes supportive essays by prominent Americans like President Obama, Hilary Clinton and Nancy Pelosi. Though the writing is uneven - sometimes wonderfully quirky and sometimes just plain bad, the stories are honest expressions of what it feels like to grow up LGBT or Q and what support can mean for teens struggling with who they are and who they want to love.
Should be required reading for those parents protesting the anti-homophobia policy for the Burnaby School District.

nwdeweyfan May 17, 2011

This a fantastic partner piece to Dan Savage's YouTube initiative of the same name. Each essay offers LGBTQ teens hope for the future, and offers ideas about dealing with bullies and hatred in school. Some of the essayists are very well known (American President Obama), but many are just ordinary adults offering advice and perspective. I think this title is important for teens, but equally important for parents of gay or questioning youth. Some of the cautionary tales may help parents understand how devastating their lack of support can be to their children.
If you haven't seen the It Gets Better videos on YouTube, check them out!

m2 Apr 09, 2011

An amazing project by Dan Savage and his parnter, Terry Miller. To give hope to gay teens suffering abuse at jr hi, high school, and college. To prevent gay teen suicide. Lots of great voices included in this collection.

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Jun 21, 2013

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Jun 21, 2013

People from all over the world, with every background, personality, nationality, and experience you can imagine write messages of hope for LGBTQ kids struggling with bullying and depression.


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Jun 21, 2013

"But I want you to know that as I look around myself right now and see the amazing people and artists and parents and activists around me, I see people who took chances, who are brave and honest and unashamed to be themselves. All the best people I know right now were once misfits and weirdos and homos and artists, just like you and me. That is exactly what I love about them."


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